In todays’s post were going to take on one of the world’s most elusive subjects of all to master … the female orgasm! Wow … that’s a tall order if there ever was one. What you’re about to learn in this post will make you a “Sex God” as far as most women (and men) are concerned. Most people (including women) don’t make having an orgasm a ‘study.’ They simply learn what they experience, as they go along. (I’ll talk more about this later. )
The biggest problem (and also the easiest one to solve) is to get a woman’s physical body as relaxed and stress free as possible.
As mentioned earlier, this alone can dramatically improve a woman’s ability to have an orgasm. If she’s already pretty orgasmic, relaxing her body will only make her orgasms stronger and more intense.
External Massage: A nice, leisurely massage is one of the best ways to give a woman pleasure, long before you start giving her sexual pleasure. Ask any woman and she’ll tell you.
Most men just have no idea how wonderful and thankful a woman will be after you give her a nice massage. In this day and age, we are all in such a hurry to get to the ‘sex.’
A massage can begin to awaken a woman’s body, removes knots and spasms so the energy (and blood) can flow through her body freely. (You already know how important that is.)
Make it a point to start your lovemaking session by giving her a nice, relaxing massage. Don’t ‘try’ to turn her on right now. (A massage is already sensual by nature.) Just focus on getting her body – and muscles – to awaken, open up and relax.
This is also a great way to relieve her anxiety, nervousness, and even some of her insecurities (if she has any.) Getting her body to relax also helps to relax her mind.
Start with a light to medium touch. Then, go back to those muscles and go a bit deeper. By doing it this way, the muscles will be more responsive and inviting to your touch. If you hit them hard at the very beginning, they won’t open up to you.
Work on the larger muscles first. Start with back first, this is the largest area and has some of the biggest knots. Shoulders and neck are the next. Glutes and thighs are another major area. So are the lower back and sacrum areas.
In the front, you’ve got the chest, legs, and hips.
As you get rid of the knots and spasms, she may find herself crying, without knowing why. This is actually normal.
Every mental problem or stress of our lives end up manifesting in the form of knots and spasms in our body. As you break up some of those trapped energy, it will release the tension – and memory – that got trapped there.
And, enjoy giving the massage! If you’re just doing it so you can get to have sex with her eventually, she will pick up on it. Women are very intuitive.
Warning: Do not massage the crease where her leg meets her hips. That “V” line that separates her legs from her private areas should not be massaged or pressured in any way. The same goes for the area under her arms.
Oh…if you don’t know how to give a massage, I strongly advise you to take a class right away. Just trust me on this. If you want to be giant steps ahead of most men, in the pleasure department, learn to give a good massage.
I recommend that you use natural oils like grape seed, avocado or walnut. These are also great for her skin and will only help her feel even better during the massage. (Stay away from mineral oils.)
But, you’re not done yet…
Awaken Her Internally: After working on the major muscles of her body, work on her erogenous zones. Gently but firmly massage her butt, sacrum, breasts, hips, pelvic area, her mound, and yes, even the outer and inner muscles of her vagina. (Remember, these areas have thousands of nerve fibers that easily get restricted…and need to be awakened.)
Be sure to use a lot of oil. You don’t want to bruise her body, especially the sensitive areas. Use two or three fingers to gently massage all sides of her inner vaginal wall. Gently massage all these areas, in all 4 directions.
Not only will this massage feel sensual and pleasurable to her, it will start to awaken the thousands of nerve fibers that reside there, which will only increase her capacity for pleasure and her ability to reach orgasm more easily.
Most women have no idea that this type of internal massage is needed to awaken the inside of their vagina and the neighboring areas. And, so they never really discover why they can’t have powerful, whole-body orgasms.
In fact, most women assume that the orgasms they’re having currently is the best they will ever get. (Now you see why I promised that you’ll learn things in this manual that most women don’t even know about. And, this is just the tip of the iceberg.
Extended Foreplay: If you’ve ever wondered why foreplay is so important, this is why. Spending enough time on foreplay also helps relax and awaken a woman’s body simultaneously. As the woman gets more and more aroused, the blood flow to her erogenous zones continue to increase. This, in turn, increases her sensitivity and ability to feel pleasure.
Extended foreplay can also include flirting with her all day long, while the two of you are physically apart from each other (at work or whatever,) using the phone, text messages, email, sexy notes left in her purse before she leaves in the morning, etc.
Laughter: Getting her to laugh, either yourself or through the use of movies, tv, etc. can be a great way to relieve physical stress, tension and also make her more comfortable mentally.
I make it a point to only date women who have a great sense of humor, or at least those who love to laugh. This makes my job 10 times easier because a woman who laughs a lot is already helping her body release all the built up stress and tension of the day.
Laughter is very powerful. Plus, it ensures that you’re always with a fun person. (Can you imagine dating or marrying someone who doesn’t enjoy laughing? Yikes! Scary thought…)
OH yeah… a woman who is a lot of fun out of bed, is always a lot more fun in bed as well, compared to other women. You definitely don’t want to sleep with someone who is rigid, always serious, and has no sense of humor. (If they’re not the type of person you’d want to hang out with, they should definitely not be worthy of your bedroom.)
Life is too short to be dating these types of women…especially when there are thousands of lively, humorous, fun women out there, just waiting for a good guy to come by and create some fireworks.